Before I get into this last post of the A to Z challenge, I have to get a few things off my chest.
This has been a blast for me.
I have way more ideas than letters in the alphabet and it is really hard for me to end without writing about them all.
Because I designed this blog to be about the Enneagram as it relates to parenting and children, I intend to return to that topic…
…which means I may never write about these ideas that are floating around in my mind.
That is a very frustrating situation for me to grapple with.
I’ll be okay.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Moving on to today’s post–
Z is for Zion. I found one definition of Zion that doesn’t contain the words Israel, Palestine or Jewish. That definition is: Utopia.
When I picture an ‘Enneagram Utopia,’ I imagine a world where people’s Egos are aligned with the Big Picture Truth about Who We Really Are.
Quick and relevant aside–What I love about the Enneagram is that it attends to both the psychological and the spiritual aspects of being human. Here’s what I mean:
If we only address our psychological issues, we end up understanding why we do what we do and can use words like ‘family of origin’ and ‘boundaries’. We may be able to change some of our behaviors that cause us trouble, but we have no larger sense of assurance, peace or purpose. It’s easy to get stuck in self-centeredness.
However, if we only address our spiritual issues, we end up being able to meditate for six hours straight and use words like ‘enlightenment’ and ‘ego-transcendence.’ We may be able to breathe better than our friends, but we still go home and yell at our kids or procrastinate to the point that our co-workers want us fired, because we haven’t dealt with our own personal stumbling blocks. It’s easy to get stuck in irrelevance.
The Enneagram attends to both, assuming we move quickly past the personality-typing aspect of it and begin to stretch and expand out from there, by helping us understand where our behaviors and misguided perspectives come from AND by giving us hints, methods and really good reasons to loosen up our beliefs about ourselves and about the world.
Therefore, and back to my point, when I imagine an Enneagram Utopia (Zion), I think about people living free from reactivity (psychological healing) AND feeling, knowing, experiencing the Bigger Picture Truth of Who We Are (spiritual healing.) And if we’re lucky, we’ll find a way to get Marvin Gaye’s kind of healing in there too.
Here’s what I mean for each type. In the first two columns, I’ll try to use just one word for each category so it’s easy to take it with you throughout the day. In the third column, I’ll expound.
|What it feels like when we experience the Bigger Picture Truth of Who We Are.||Things to practice all day every day to get some freedom from reactivity.||What I mean in case one word’s not enough|
|One||Serenity (All is well)||Welcome imperfection||Know that imperfection within yourself and the world is inherent. Allow this to be the case. Practice releasing yourself from the job of righting the world.|
|Two||Humility (I’m loveable just as I am)||Self-care||Ask yourself what you need and honor that. Look around for the people who love you and care for you (imperfectly) and let that in.|
|Three||Authenticity (I am who I want to be)||Good-enough effort||Pour your heart and energy into what you truly love and do the rest just good-enough.|
|Four||Wholeness (I was born complete. Nothing in me is broken.)||Action||Allow your feelings to propel you forward into right action rather than holding you down, keeping you stuck in the delusion of disconnection.|
|Five||Abundance (I will always have all I need)||Embodiment||From a place of being in tune with your body, engage with your life, practicing the perspective that you have no less than/just as much as anyone else does to navigate the world. See what happens when you give of yourself to your life.|
|Six||Courage (I can walk through fear and do other hard things)||Relax||Release yourself from having to manage the future by trusting that you can handle anything that may or may not come to pass. In the meantime, relax into what is happening right now.|
|Seven||Contentment (What I want is right here)||Enough||Pay attention to what is going on within and around you. Drop down into your body and experience deeply. Stay with it longer than you want to.|
|Eight||Vulnerable (It’s okay to let my guard down)||Right energy/intensity||Practice letting your intensity fluctuate depending on the needs of the situation. Try to tone down your energy and ramp it up at will.|
|Nine||Balance (The center of it all is peaceful)||Tune in||Pay attention to what you think, feel and want. Share that with people. Participate in your life with your whole self, wide awake.|