R is for Red Flags

    When we react to the world in the same, fear-based, ego-driven ways, over and over and over again, the same things tend to happen. We go in and out of feeling mad, ashamed, anxious, lonely, hurt, victimized, powerless, controlling, distant, arrogant or self-righteous. Eww. However, quitting our reactions so we can feel better, […]

Q is for Questions

  If someone said to me:  Let’s say you are stranded on a deserted island and can only take one tool for your emotional and mental well-being, what would you take? I would say, You mean in addition to the one food, the one book and the one person I’ve already been asked to pick? […]

P is for Passions

Passion, in the Enneagram world, has an uncommon meaning. I’m all about passion in the, soul’s-desire, manifest-your-dreams, go-after-that-which-makes-your-heart-sing kind of way.  However, in this context, passions are more like obsessions than inner callings. In relation to the Enneagram, Passions are feelings that pull us powerfully in the wrong direction, away from our true self and […]

L is for Levels of Development

One group of Enneagram teachers introduced the idea of levels of development which speaks to the differences in health or functioning between people with the same personality type. Because each type gets broken up into 9 levels of development, I haven’t posted a table here with all that.  Besides, other people have already done it, […]

H is for Habits

An ugly truth about our personalities is that they are lazy.  Complex and dug-in, I’ll give them, but imaginative?  Not so much. Rather than finding new and interesting ways to get what they want each day, they create habits and patterns that we obediently fall into and do over and over and over again.  If […]

D is for Distance or Disidentification

This one’s a bit abstract so hang in there with me because it is one of the most important tools for increasing your freedom from your personality’s knee-jerk reactions and limited perspectives.   Here’s how it works. When we are identified with our personality structure, we see the world in a prescribed way.  We have […]